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November 16, 2020

6 Self-Esteem Boosters That Will Improve Your Confidence

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Do you struggle with your self-esteem? Is it becoming more and more difficult for you to show confidence in any situation? Do you feel like you need more self-esteem boosters in your life?  I’ve been there… I remember being too afraid even to publish a blog post. I wasn’t confident in myself, my abilities, and what I was talking about at all. No one cares, stop wasting your time, my mind would say. 

 

I’ll tell you now. I’m so glad I ignored those thoughts. I pushed through, and now I can help and connect with amazing people like you who need my help. 

So, in this blog post, you will learn the self-esteem boosters that I used to push those thoughts away. 

Repeat or Write Self-Esteem Boosting Affirmations.

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I love positive affirmations. They can help you so much if you dedicate yourself to using them. 

All you have to do is say aloud or write down a load of self-esteem and confidence-boosting statements every day. Keep on writing them or repeating them until these thoughts fix in your mind. 

Then, if at any point, you start to feel insecure that day. Those affirmations will be swimming around in your head to remind you how amazing you are and why you shouldn’t feel that way. It is a beautiful feeling.

 

Talk Back to Your Inner Critic 

Another great self-esteem booster is getting into the habit of talking back to your inner critic. We all get these types of thoughts. You look in the mirror, and your mind tells you that your hair looks a mess, or it’s pointing out the small spot on your chin. Annoying, right? 

Well, I want you to start talking back to these thoughts. Tell these thoughts to “shut up.” Tell them, “no one cares about a small spot.” Tell them, “actually, I think my hair looks nice.” Don’t let your inner critic beat you. You are arguing with yourself. You can’t lose. 

 

Dine Alone and Enjoy Your Own Company for a Boost

If you can, I highly recommend taking yourself out on a little cafe date. Sit down on your own, order a hot drink and a slice of cake and enjoy yourself. 

Remember, no one cares that you are on your own. Doing this will be a massive self-esteem booster. You will love it once you get into the habit, and you won’t want to stop going and taking yourself out. Who needs tinder to find love. Am I right? 

Listen to a Self-Esteem Boosting Podcast 

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I love listening to podcasts, and I know that you will too. Having someone talking in your ear about why you should have confidence in yourself is one of many great self-esteem boosters. Sometimes we need that extra voice to remind us how much of a badass we are, and that’s okay. 

Podcasts are so addicting and great to listen to when you are out for a stroll or just lying on your bed quietly. If you choose and listen to the right one, they can be amazing self-esteem boosters. 

 A great podcast that I discovered recently called “Mindful In Minutes” created a life-changing “Self Esteem Meditation” podcast episode. After listening to it, I felt perfect, and I want the same for you. So give it a listen! 

 

Don’t Forget Self-Care for a Self-Esteem Boost. 

Self-Care is a vital part of living a happy and healthy life and one of my favourite self-esteem boosters. Without it, you won’t feel great mentally, and your low self-esteem and inner critic will take over more quickly. Don’t let this happen. Look after yourself. Do something for you that you enjoy every day, and certainly don’t feel guilty about it. 

Listen to music, read a good book, go out for a walk, have a bubble bath, light a candle, pamper yourself. You deserve it. Keep on reminding yourself that.

 

Stop Comparing Yourself To Others and Boost Your Self-Esteem

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I talked about this recently, but I need to touch on it again. Comparing ourselves to others is such a massive cause of low self-esteem in ladies like us. Just scrolling through Instagram and seeing all the model-like influencers can feel like a punch in the gut. Why can’t I look like that? You have probably thought once or twice. 

Well, I’m here to tell you to stop that. It’s a toxic mindset, and your confidence will not benefit in the long run. I know that’s easier said than done but try. Over time it will get easier. Remember, we can’t all look the same, so it’s a waste of time worrying. 

Tap here to read my tips on stopping caring what people think of you and continuing to take those steps towards higher self-esteem which this amazing self-esteem booster. 

 

Wrapping It Up 

Boosting your self-esteem isn’t easy and will take time. But, if you stay consistent and do everything suggested above, nothing is going to stop you. Keep going, and eventually, your confidence will be at an all-time high. If it’s possible for me, it’s possible for anyone. 

If you want to take even more significant action in your journey towards higher self-esteem and confidence,… check out 100 Steps Closer.

100 Steps Closer is an ebook by La Ivana that helps you to take the steps needed towards the life that you want. It includes motivational quotes, journal prompts, positive affirmations, and action steps that have helped me with my confidence. I would like the same for you! 

Tap here to take your first step. 

Love you all, 

Ruth xoxo 

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SELF-ESTEEM BOOSTERS FAQ

How can I boost my self-esteem fast?

There is no garaunteed fast way. It all depends on you and how determined you are to overcome your fears. I’d definitely recommend starting to implement a few things mentioned in this blog post. Start off easy and work your way up. You will get there and eventually your self esteem will be higher than ever before. 

What causes low self-esteem?

Causes of a low self-esteem can vary. Sometimes it’s due to a troubling childhood or a situation in the past. Being a victim of bullying in school can really affect your confidence in the future too. This is talking from personal experience, but everyone is different. 

What are the signs of a low self-esteem?

There are quite a few signs of low self-esteem which can vary for everyone. These are a few that I struggle with… 

  • Difficulty speaking – my self-esteem was non-existent in school to the fact that I rarely talked in class. 
  • Saying “I’m sorry” a lot. It will be difficult for you to go a day without saying this. 
  • Struggling to make choices or say what you want out loud in fear of being judged. I still often go along with other people’s decisions. 

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About Ruth Shapter

Ruth is a Mental Health Blogger from the United Kingdom. She crafts her writing from personal experience and shares her knowledge on the best ways to overcome anxiety and depression.

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  1. E

    November 16, 2020 at 6:17 pm

    We all need to spend more time taking care of ourselves. Great ideas.

    Reply
    • Ruth Shapter

      November 16, 2020 at 6:31 pm

      thank youu 😀

      Reply
  2. Megan

    November 16, 2020 at 9:33 pm

    My grandmother told me in my late 20’s not to rent space in my head for things outside of my control. Best advice ever. I’m careful about the thoughts I rent space to now and it’s sure now comparing myself to anyone else.

    Great article!

    Reply
    • Ruth Shapter

      December 5, 2020 at 3:10 pm

      I absolutely love that! Thanks for sharing her wise words with us 🙂

      Reply
  3. Gemma

    November 17, 2020 at 12:18 am

    I’m constantly having to work on my self esteem and regularly tell my inner critic Felicia to shut up. This post is great, and has given me some ideas of things I can do daily. Thank you

    Reply
    • Ruth Shapter

      December 5, 2020 at 3:10 pm

      You’re very welcome, let me know how you get on 🙂

      Reply
  4. Candice Williams

    November 17, 2020 at 4:16 pm

    I start every day by reading positive affirmations and complimenting myself every time I look in the mirror! Thank you for sharing.

    Reply
    • Ruth Shapter

      December 5, 2020 at 3:09 pm

      Affirmations really are amazing. Thank you so much for your comment 🙂

      Reply
  5. Pasha Swirl

    December 6, 2020 at 12:06 am

    Self care is so important, I don’t make enough time for myself always tending to others but the reality is if I’m not looking after myself how can I look after others? Sometimes you have to just stop and put yourself first

    Reply
    • Ruth Shapter

      December 7, 2020 at 9:24 pm

      So true! 🙂

      Reply
  6. Jessica Delgado

    December 6, 2020 at 12:20 am

    I really enjoyed reading this – comparing myself to others is one of my biggest downfalls. I have to consciously decide not to do that so I can stay sane. Everyone is different – everyone has their own struggles.
    Thank you for sharing

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    • Ruth Shapter

      December 7, 2020 at 9:23 pm

      I still do it all the time automatically, just have to keep fighting it 🙂 Thank you for your comment.

      Reply
  7. David N Brace

    December 6, 2020 at 4:34 am

    This was a lovely article. Self esteem is something that is often so played up in our culture but rarely explained with regards to building our self esteem.

    Your discussing repeating and writing affirmations is very true. Our minds and spirits need to be refueled, we need to be renewed and if we are not taking moments to renew ourselves, then the very real truth is that we probably aren’t being renewed at all.

    Thanks for the post. 🙏

    Reply
    • Ruth Shapter

      December 7, 2020 at 9:22 pm

      Thank you so much for your comment 🙂 I love what you said about renewing ourselves, so well said!

      Reply
  8. Suncana

    December 6, 2020 at 11:52 am

    Love this list! Comparison is the thief of joy for sure

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    • Ruth Shapter

      December 7, 2020 at 9:22 pm

      It really is! Thank you so much for your comment 🙂

      Reply
  9. Karine Gareau

    December 12, 2020 at 3:00 pm

    I love your idea of dining alone and enjoying your own presence. Self awareness is one of the keys! Love your writing!

    Reply
  10. Candice Williams

    January 20, 2021 at 10:54 am

    I find that daily affirmations help to boost my mood. I am working on boosting my confidence too, which is harder but doable. Thanks for sharing.

    Reply

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