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August 13, 2020

How To Start Helping Someone with Depression

Disclaimer: I am not a therapist or licensed mental health professional. If you are in need of professional help, please talk to a doctor, therapist or sign up for Online Therapy. Everything I talk about in my blog is simply advice from my own personal experience. I never state that these methods will definitely work for you as everyone is different. 

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As a person who can suffer from depression, it can be challenging to take care of myself, let alone another person. Although, it’s not out of the ordinary that you know someone is going through a lot mentally as we speak. Maybe you already know about them, or perhaps you don’t. 

The World Health Organization estimates that over 300 million people suffer from depression worldwide. It is incredibly common, and one of the main causes of disability in the world. If you have a struggling friend or family member, make sure to check up on them and let them know you are there.

Talking from experience, this means so much to someone with depression. Just knowing someone hasn’t given up on you and getting that validation is lovely. So, today I will be sharing all the great ways in which you can help and support someone with depression without smothering them. 

Helping Someone With Depression Tip #1

Actively Listen To Them

Someone to talk too who will listen and take everything in is what anyone with depression needs the most. Ask your friend or family member how they are feeling and take every answer to heart. Let them speak and just listen. There is nothing worse than being talked over or questioned when speaking about a difficult subject like this. Make sure to engage with them, so they know that you are actively listening and not just letting everything go over your head. You can do this by using the following techniques: 

  • Make eye contact – Now and then make straight eye contact with them. Don’t do it non-stop though as this can be intimidating when talking about such a deep and emotional subject. 
  • Show empathy with your body language – Move closer to them, nod your head and smile. This technique is a great way to show your loved one that you are listening and will encourage them to continue.
  • Ask questions – Don’t assume that you know what they are going through. Ask them to elaborate if you are unsure or struggling to understand. This method will show that you are interested and engaged in what they are saying. 

Remember, try not to push your loved one if they don’t feel like talking at first. Make your friend aware that you are around to chat and let them come to you at their own pace. 

Helping Someone With Depression Tip #2

Educate Yourself 

Do your research before reaching out to support someone with depression. It is best to know what depression is and the symptoms, so you don’t appear ignorant. All this takes is a simple Google search and a few minutes of reading. There is nothing more frustrating than having to explain these things to everyone who wants to talk about my mental health issues. 

You can show your support by educating yourself in advance and preventing your loved one from getting frustrated. If your research shows, this will mean a lot too as it shows you care enough to take time out of your day to look it up for them. It shows that you don’t want to upset them or get anything wrong. Here are a few topics that you can start searching today: 

  • Symptoms of depression 
  • Causes of depression 
  • Treatments for depression 
  • What is experiencing depression like? 

You can look up these or anything that you feel will help you out before putting yourself out there and supporting your loved one. 

Helping Someone With Depression Tip #3

Help Them 

When you are suffering from depression, even completing the most simple tasks can feel like running a marathon. Getting out of bed, brushing your teeth or having a shower can take up a lot of energy and effort. Therefore, offering help will go a long way and mean so much. Let them know whenever you are available to help with chores or any work around the house. Sometimes, just having company completing these everyday tasks makes them so much easier and much more enjoyable. 

You can even offer to take them out somewhere. Depression can cause you to isolate, which tends to make you feel worse. Try to get them out of the house somehow, even if just for a short walk together. However, don’t feel offended if your loved one declines any offers you make. As long as they know you are willing to go out of your way for them, that is the main thing. Plus knowing you have someone to go to when you need help takes so much pressure off. 

Helping Someone With Depression Tip #4

Help Them To Find Support 

Another way you can help them is by finding them support. Accepting that you need help, and making a doctors appointment for this kind of thing can be terrifying. That’s where you come in. Help them by encouraging them to make that first appointment or book that first therapy session. They may not accept it at first but keep on trying.

 My friend took me to the doctors and went into the room with me. We had written out a list of symptoms and feelings together beforehand to make it easier and less daunting when the doctor asked any questions. Knowing you have a friend by your side throughout the whole experience can make the entire thing so much easier. No one deserves to go through this alone. It is scary enough. 

There are so many ways which you can support someone with depression. During these tough times in the world right now, people are struggling so much mentally. So many people are losing jobs, loved ones and hopes for a better future. We need to support each other now more than ever and spread the love as much as possible. 

Have you ever gone the extra mile to support someone with depression? Or has someone ever helped you? What did they do? Let me know in the comments and spread some appreciation for these fantastic people. I would love to hear all of your experiences and get to know you all. 

Ruth xoxo

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Ruth is a Mental Health Blogger from the United Kingdom. She crafts her writing from personal experience and shares her knowledge on the best ways to overcome anxiety and depression.

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  1. Mimi

    August 13, 2020 at 8:58 pm

    Being someone who deals with depression I definitely agree with these

    Reply
    • ColourfulHope

      August 14, 2020 at 3:59 pm

      Thank you for your comment 🙂

      Reply
  2. Mama ‘N Chief

    August 14, 2020 at 2:53 am

    As someone who has suffered from depression, I think your tips are spot on. No one in my family really knew how to talk to me or treat me when I told them what I was going through.

    Reply
    • ColourfulHope

      August 14, 2020 at 3:58 pm

      It was exactly the same for me, I wish more people would educate themselves on mental health struggles before trying to understand. Thank you for your comment! 🙂

      Reply
  3. Mahnoor

    August 14, 2020 at 3:33 pm

    This is such an important topic! Actively listening to someone can do wonders!

    Reply
    • ColourfulHope

      August 14, 2020 at 3:57 pm

      Definitely! We need to make sure we are doing this more often 🙂

      Reply
  4. Raina

    August 14, 2020 at 6:12 pm

    This is such a helpful post with some really wonderful tips! Thanks

    Reply
  5. Tisha

    August 14, 2020 at 10:17 pm

    This is great advice. Depression is higher recently, being able to help someone even just by listening and showing empathy can help more than anyone realizes.

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    • ColourfulHope

      August 16, 2020 at 7:38 pm

      Thank you for your comment, Tisha 🙂

      Reply
  6. Lyndsie Harris

    August 23, 2020 at 2:45 pm

    All of your points truly resonate with me as I struggled for years with severe depression and now anxiety from time to time. I think this is a wonderful article to exist as people who don’t deal with these struggles sometimes just don’t understand what we need, even if they mean well! Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and helpful tips on the matter!

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